Going through a divorce can feel like your world has been turned upside down. I know this firsthand. My divorce happened in my early 20s, less than a year into my marriage. At the time, I was just starting to build my identity, financial independence, and career. When reality hit, I felt like a failure—the future I envisioned was no longer possible.
Thankfully, I had no children to share custody of, no significant assets to divide, and minimal financial obligations. Even so, I remember the anxiety: How would I survive on my own? Where would I live? Would I ever be able to afford anything?
Being young helped. My needs were simple, and I had energy and health on my side. But for women going through divorce later in life, the challenges can feel much greater. After decades of shared life, children to co-parent, assets to divide, and a new identity to rebuild, the emotional, mental, and financial toll can be overwhelming.
As a financial adviser, I help women navigate one critical part of this journey: their financial future. If you’re going through a divorce, here are some tips to help you transition with resilience and emerge stronger.
1. Embrace Your Strengths
A divorce later in life can disrupt long-term plans like retirement and require significant adjustments to your financial and personal goals. It’s natural to feel anxious about starting over—especially if you were financially dependent on your spouse. You might worry about how to rebuild your financial security, manage living arrangements, or face aging alone.
But remember, you’ve already built a life filled with achievements, whether it’s your career, raising children, or other accomplishments. Lean into these strengths as your foundation.Acceptance and courage are key. Accept that your financial situation will change and use this as an opportunity to embrace independence and rediscover your passions. Courage will help you make tough decisions and face uncertainty with confidence. Focus on problem-solving and flexibility, allowing you to create a fulfilling new chapter in life.
Patience is equally important. Divorce proceedings and emotional healing take time. Avoid impulsive decisions, and give yourself the grace to adapt at your own pace.
2. Think Financially Savvy
Divorce often brings financial instability, making it crucial to understand your finances and plan for the future. Educating yourself about personal finance—or working with a financial planner—can help you feel more confident managing your expenses, understanding your options, and building a secure foundation.
Start by unpacking your financial situation:
– Assess what you and your partner own and owe.
– Visualize what financial success looks like for you after separation.Explore scenarios and plan your next steps:
– Can you afford to keep your home, or is selling a better option?
– If you sell, what are the best options for buying or renting in the future?
– What are your long-term financial goals, and how can you work toward them?
Together with my clients, we create a plan that provides clarity and control. By focusing on long-term goals and breaking tasks into manageable steps, you can feel empowered to make informed decisions.
3. Transform, Don’t Just Survive
Divorce isn’t just about dividing assets and moving on—it’s about transformation. Beyond solving the financial numbers, our ultimate goal is to help clients feel confident, secure, and empowered about their future.
This is your chance to rebuild your life with intention. Whether it’s discovering new passions, prioritizing self-care, or setting exciting new goals, a divorce can be the start of something extraordinary.
Visualise your future, not just your past. With the right support, you can turn this challenging time into a stepping stone for growth and fulfillment.
Divorce may feel like the end of one chapter, but it’s also the beginning of another. By embracing your strengths, thinking financially savvy, and focusing on transformation, you can navigate this journey with resilience and create a future full of possibility.